Relationship Matters: Be The Woman; Let Him Be The Man

First I must admit that the lowered standards of many women desperately in search of a mate have certainly contributed to men not rising to the full status of doing their “man thing”. When you see that man falling down on the job, it’s time to do a proper check because it’s either you are not giving him room to be the man he was created to be, or his heart is not in the right place toward you.
 
When a man comes into your life and is willing to be the man God wants him to be, being willing to let him handle the carriage. We can shout from now till tomorrow and foolishly follow feminists who deceive us into believing that you are equal. Sis, you are equal with any other man, but never your own husband. Yes, you are partners in progress and every right thinking man acknowledges that. But in every institution, there is always that person who takes the final decision. Let him be the man.

Many men have complained that the reason they changed and stopped being efficient in their God-ordained roles is that the women are not ready to allow them take the lead. He goes out and buys a dress for you and instead of a simple “Thank You”, all he gets is “this is not what I need now” or “I don’t like this colour”. It kills his spirit. Some of us have been on our own for a while and that affects the way we relate with him. Sometimes, you even forget there is a man somewhere; I understand. I know some men come into your life not willing and ready to be the man God has called them to be. Those ones are there with you just for their own selfish reasons and they will leave you the very day you are down. But there are others who are ready and willing to take care of you the way they should.

We live in a time when women compete with their husbands. We have suddenly become very selfish people who no longer think about ‘US’ but ‘ME’. It is no longer about our in-laws, but our own parents and siblings. Women now pray for the prosperity of their own brothers more than their husband. Women now want to be richer than their husbands. I daily pray and ask God not to allow me to become richer than my husband. If we are one, I pray the Lord transfers that wealth to him and then in return have me manifest his (the man) glory because God says I am the glory of the man. All I pray is for my husband to be blessed beyond measure and for him to understand what the Bible is talking about when it says I am his glory.

When you are married to the right man, he will never forget that you are his glory.
NB: Don’t try to let him into your world if your heart tells you he is up to some games. I have heard about men who murdered their wives simply because they were able to lay hands on her resources.
Now ladies, throughout the Bible men demonstrated the heart of God toward women. Any man who wants to dress better than his woman is not a good husband material. Any man who drives the new car and transfers the old one to his wife is not worth being a husband. David killed hundreds of Philistine just to have Michal’s hand in marriage. Is your man willing to do exploit for you? For the Shulamite woman, Solomon built an immense home that resembled the surrounding she was used to. He also praised her beauty continually. Is that man fluffing up your ego and romancing you? King Ahaseurus killed Esther’s enemy, Haman. Is your man covering you in prayer and putting the enemy to flight in your life? He didn’t only do away with her enemies, he offered her up to half of his kingdom. What has he given up for you? Do you have your name as a co-owner of all that he has or does he have his brother’s name instead of yours? If that man cannot do this for you, it says two things: I don’t trust her enough with my wealth and I don’t think my love for her extends to the area of my earnings.

Don’t be too desperate for any man; the most important thing is for you to make sure the man is spiritually balanced. Mind you, I did not say spiritual because many spiritual people don’t make good husbands, he must be spiritually balanced. It is not your duty to lead family devotions; it is his God-ordained duty. Your husband must be the priest in your home and if he fails in this aspect, he is a failure because the spiritual life of your home remains the most important and the family that prays together stays together. But he spends his time in night and nude clubs; I am sorry, you can’t change it because you got married to the wrong man possibly because you were blinded by the goodies flowing from him. If you are in that situation, please hand it over to the Lord and see Him change your man. If you are about getting into it, you better stop and think again. It is not in how much he has, it is in his ability to walk in and with God and his willingness to share even the little he has with you.

 Some ladies go about complaining to anyone who cares to listen, about the devil of a husband they have at home. I have seen women turn and pray against their man whenever the pastor asks the congregation to pray against the devil. I know there are men who are naturally stingy and selfish, but there are also some nice ones who are forced to act contrary by the woman. Why should that man trust you with his possessions when all you do at the slightest sight of his money is transfer some to your brother’s account? Is it possible he trusts you when you remember the number of parties you have and foodstuffs yet to be bought just because you know he has collected his salary?

I really don’t understand some parents who want their daughters to bring the husband’s house into theirs. Lady, your parents have lived their lives, it is time for you to live in peace and harmony with your spouse. Don’t rush to your mother before you carry out your husband’s instructions; you are married to him and not mummy. Sir, don’t consult your sister or mother before doing things for your wife; it only tags you a weakling. Your mother should not be allowed to enter your husband’s room as if it is the family living room. Men, learn to respect your wife by not allowing your mother and sisters who have refused to go to their own husband’s house to enter your bedroom anyhow. Please learn to give your husband/wife the respect he/she deserves and make him/her to trust you with his/her possessions.
If you are not faithful with little, you can’t be faithful with much.