MONEY AND RELATIONSHIPS: For Love or Money?

I often tell people that for a relationship to work out “Money” is the basis.(Money here is relative) .It may not necessarily be physical cash. The next question parents ask their prospective son in-law after “what is your name?” is “what do you do?”. They ask him all sort of “relevant and irrelevant” questions about his job. The question is an unconscious one. They are just trying to find out if the man has prospect and if the future of their daughter is secured. They want to know if the man is capable of taking care of their daughter. It is after all these they will finally ask if he loves their daughter. This is to tell you that parents know what it entails for a marriage to work.90 percent of failed marriages can be channel down to MONEY…

1.It may be lack of money: The man can not pick bills. He can’t pay the rent or children’s school fees, the woman starts nagging.2.Insecurity:The wife is earning more than him and he feels so insecure. If the wife comes back late she is definitely screwing around. 

If he tells the wife something and the she doesn’t agree with him she is obviously arrogant and pompous. Everything is money related. Money makes a man. Money makes a woman secure. 

Its rare to see a situation where a woman will tell you that she is packing out of her matrimonial home because she is not loved by her husband…Gone are the days when you see women running after men because of their money(I am referring to working class ladies)…It’s the other way round nowadays. 

 Women are now industrious, educated and earn as much as their male counterparts but the point still remains “aponle ko si fun eni abuku”..If a man is “always” financially unstable it will be hard for a woman to respect him. That’s when you’ll hear the woman telling her friends, “who sabi where he don waka with his big head”. But assuming he is financially stable the woman would say, “OH, my dear went out. He won’t be coming back till next week. You know, he is always busy”…

And to all yea unmarried men looking for a woman to marry, date a woman who is “within your financial capacity”. How do you expect a relationship or marriage to work when a man who earns 150k wants to date or is dating a lady whose pair of shoes is 40k and above, one handbag 50k and above, designer clothes, designer perfume, lives in GRA courtesy of her deep pockets, with an income of 800k per month. And you hear him saying “we love each other”…Love indeed!.. 

When reality sets in, the marriage will hit the rock.”iwon eku, ni iwon ite”, that is “cut your coat according to your clothe”. Money is not everything but women feel more comfortable with men who are financially stable and buoyant than them, even when we pick our bills…It’s called nothing but security. 

If money cant make a woman happy with a particular man, then lack of it with the same man will drive her crazy and make her obtain a bed in Aro. Men too can be broke when they invest in projects and women can lift them financially but it’s just that thought that “This man is a man and not one opportunist”…It’s the same reason a man with prospect will find it difficult to marry and love Grace alagbo or kafaya oni paraga who has little or no income…

Written by Dewumi Adediran