A Must Read: This is Sad! Women Don’t Ever Be Too Desperate To Get Things In Life

Katika pitapita zangu za kusoma  mtandaoni nimekutana na hii story ya mwanamama aliyekuwa desperate kupata mtoto, mwisho wa siku akakutana na mengine. Isome na wewe ujifunze kitu kutoka kwake, enjoy your boxing day!

This woman had been married for almost ten years without a child. You can probably imagine the kind of pressures she was facing. Her husband was contemplating taking another wife, her mother-in-law hated her, her friends, neighbours, work colleagues etc would comment on her situation and make hurtful remarks. Finally in desperation, she started looking for a solution and she heard about one pastor that performs miracle of curing barrenness. 

She informed her husband and they invited the Pastor to their home for a meeting. The pastor came for a visit, asked them questions and said she should come to their church for a four-week deliverance session and her prayers would be answered.

She got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy some months later. But while she was in hospital, a doctor informed her that she had contracted HIV and the baby too was infected. Her husband was negative. So where had the infection come from?

After some investigation, it turned out that during the “prayers” and “deliverance sessions”, the pastor had been giving her date rape drugs and he and the three other pastors had taken turns to rape the woman for weeks! The poor woman tried to kill herself and was admitted into a psychiatric hospital while investigation is still going on.

I’m sharing this story to appeal to us as women to please never be so desperate that we get into terrible situations like this. Desperation makes us vulnerable. Whether it is desperation to marry, to have children, to get rich quick, to achieve something that we see others having… whatever it is, we should be patient. It may be difficult, but ladies, PLEASE never let external pressure get to you. Always trust your instincts, if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is. 

And furthermore, if we know someone who is waiting for something she cannot control, like getting pregnant, can we all please make sure we don’t add to her pain. I have friends who are waiting for the fruit of the womb and I would never make careless or horrible comments to them about their situation. It is wise to be sensitive to other people’s situation. 

After all, none of us can manufacture children, they are freely given to us by God. Because somebody got pregnant one week after her wedding and somebody had to wait for ten years, it doesn’t mean God loves one person more than the other, or that one woman is better than the other.